A Glitter Girl’s Guide to No-Nonsense Manifesting

Isa Genzken – I Love New York Crazy City

Manifesting and positive thinking get a bad rap. I think a lot people read half of The Secret and throw it out because they think it’s total hippy-dippy nonsense, and they might be right. I’m weary of “change your life through the power of positive thinking” too. A good life takes effort, not sitting in your room wishing something would happen. You have to go out take what is yours. Sometimes though, sheer willpower isn’t enough. Sometimes, you need a little extra oopmh and that’s when these steps to manifesting swoop in and save the day. Manifesting is just the practice of inviting the universe to meet you halfway. Positive thinking is an important step, for sure, but this is a guide to taking things into your own hands at the same time. I’ve come up with eight distinct steps to take when you can’t see a way out of the jam you’re in, or a clear path to the live you want to lead.

Step One:  Cultivate gratitude. If you want to lay out a welcome mat for the universe, you need to be grateful for what you already have.  Like us pesky millennials, the universe needs positive reinforcement. This isn’t the cheesy “I’m thankful for… ” crap you say at Thanksgiving dinner when your grandma forces you to think of something. The gratitude you need to make manifesting happen is the kind that makes you jump out of bed, put on your brightest pink lipstick and kiss your reflection in the mirror. I know those moments don’t happen all the time, but you can up your chances of having them by noticing when your thinking gets needlessly negative, and forcing yourself to think one thing you’re thankful for. Bonus points if you’re thankful for some aspect of the thing that’s currently stressing you the fuck out. One thankful thought a day is all it takes.

Step Two: Define the problem. Be clear about what the problem really is. Dig in and think about every single thing that needs to get solved about it. I am officially giving you permission to give into your inner worry-wart. This doesn’t mean wallow in misery– this means think about every little piece of the problem and really understand what solving this problem is going to take. Don’t write it down, don’t do anything about it. Just have it in your head. Quickly come up with a two or three word way to describe the problem. Then, I give you permission to do a Very Adult Thing and completely ignore the logistics of solving your problem. This is probably going to give you heart palpitations– ignore those too.

Rose Miller – Strawberry Blonde

Step Three: Narrate Your Perfect Solution. Instead of focusing on the logistics, I want you to think about the juicy details of how you are going to feel when a solution presents itself. Focus on the feelings, and the logistics will make themselves clear. Here are some questions to ask yourself to get yourself started (keep going if the mood strikes you): What does your day to day look like once you’ve solved your problem? What are you wearing? What does waking up every morning feel like? Going to sleep? What does a typical day look like once you’ve solved this problem?  What do you get to say on the phone with your best friend at the end of every day? What does being in your skin feel like? I feel like this goes without saying, but these should all be good visions of happy feelings. Keep these close to your heart. Manifesting isn’t always the easiest process, and you’ll need a reserve of good to keep you centered.

Step Four: Tell everyone about your problem. The key to not doing this annoyingly is to focus on the fact that you’re fixing the problem and already have it under control, but if they have any advice/help/contacts for you, take them up on it. For me, the best way to do this is to throw it in at the very beginning of conversation. Start conversations with “Hey, how are you?” and the other person is likely to say “fine, how are you?” Your answer to that has to work in your problem without complaining about it and then immediately give the other person an out of talking about your problems if they don’t want to. Example: “I’m good… in the middle of solving this (two or three word description of problem from step two) thing, but otherwise really good. How was your (trip/first day at a new job/whatever)?” People will either bite if they want to help you, or they’ll just talk about themselves if they don’t want to deal with your shit. Bringing it up to new people helps too, but there’s less of a script for that. Ideally you’ll have the conversation above, with a mutual friend, in front of new people. I trust you guys to understand how to interact with other human beings without being weird. 

Etsy – New York City Art Print

Step Five: Cast a wide net. The Internet makes this so easy. This is an extension of step three, but digital. This step could also be called “take it into your own hands.” This is the part where you make profiles on every dating website, apply to every job tangentially related to your skills, sign up for community classes in something you’re interested in. Nothing is too small at this moment, the point is to have your name and number absolutely everywhere. Don’t get too attached to any one option, just send out your best vibes everywhere.

Step Six: Loosen the reigns. This can be a really hard step for us Type-As. But do your best to go to live your life. Let the universe work it’s magic while you do your thing. Let those managers read your sparking cover letters, and those cuties on OKCupid get excited about your profile while you take yourself on a date or do a craft or see a movie and sneak in drinks with your best friend. Take a deep breath. You’re almost there.

Aimee Sicora – Fashion Print

Step Seven: Follow up with everything. Step five can take a while. But you’ve gotten this far, and you cast a wide net, so you’re going to have a bushel of opportunities coming your way. Your mission, should you choose to accept it (and you should!),  is to seize all those opportunities. Spoiler alert: a lot of these things won’t pan out. This is the exhausting step. Things are going to feel out of your control, and they are. The despair is expected, just keep your eye on the ball. Focus on the juicy details from step four and stay rooted in your gratitude. This is the part where you make it happen, where you meet the universe halfway. It can be helpful to look for signs that you’re on the right track during this step. I don’t know what that means to you, but to me it means little coincidences and moments of magic. You’ll know them when you see them. Keep going, keep following up, the energy you spend will come back to you. Stay open and grateful, even when if feels like it’s going to kill you.

Step Eight: Arrive. Just when you feel like you’re going to keel over and give up, a solution will present itself. It might not be wrapped up in a pretty bow, but you’ve done the work, and you know what you want. You’ll know you’ve worked it out when something makes you feel the way you wanted the solution to make you feel. It will fit with your vision of what you want and, most importantly, it’ll be easy. You won’t have to fight, or scream at anyone, or cry. The logistical work you have to do (and there will be logistical work) to make it happen will flow. This is the part where you savor every moment because you did it! You met the universe halfway and kicked-ass in the process. Now it’s time to rinse and repeat on the next thing.

Secret Step Nine: Take care of the stuff you manifest! This means be a good friend to the girl you worked hard to get to know. Keep that perfect apartment clean. Have fun and be honest with the boy you think could be the one. This is a tangible form of gratitude, one that’s easy and so, so powerful.

A Holiday Cookie Party

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My fondest childhood memories of the holiday season involve our annual cookie decorating extravaganzas. My mom and Aunt Patty spent forever mixing and rolling out and cutting and baking batches and batches of cookies and then mixing and coloring and spreading icing and then yet another forever cleaning up after us sprinkle-loving creative kiddos. Now that I’m a semi-adult and it’s the holiday season, I wanted to re-create that with some of my friends here! We had a total blast watching Disney Movies, decorating cookies, and drinking our spiked hot chocolate!

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In the foreground, my roommate’s boyfriend eats a snowflake-shaped cookie while my other roommate (I have 2!) makes one of her signature derp faces in the background.
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A friend and roommate struggle a little with the Wilton canned icing, which was otherwise easy-peasy and tasty too!

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Here I am gettin’ real serious with my cookies.
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Two former roommates and good friends giggle merrily
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A kind soul brought us a pizza so we ate and watched High School Musical 3 when the decorating wound down.

I had such a great time with all you lovely ladies (and some lads!)! Thanks for coming to our first annual cookie decorating extravaganza!

Nesting as Procrastination

I will be done with the semester in less than two weeks (!!) and I have lots of work to do. I wish with all my might that I could tell you I’ve been working hard like the perfect student you all want me to be, but instead I have been sitting in bed dreaming about ways to  zhuzh up my room.  I have furniture– bed/desk/bookshelf/nightstand/lamps– so I’m not living in an empty room. When we moved in I intentionally kept my room pretty blah, but now we’ve lived here for four months and I have a sense of what the space feels like and how I want to use it. Here are my ideas- suggestions and recommendations welcome!

Bookshelf 

Mostly I just want a place to display the typewriter I got for Christmas last year, but my current bookshelf isn’t deep enough. Also, I don’t have all my books in NYC yet, so I don’t need a huge bookcase for my whole collection. I like the look of that blue dresser with the prints over it, so I thought I would recreate that with a bookshelf!

Bookshelf inspiration

Miscellany

These are just various things I’ve seen around the internet that I’ve taken a liking to. My love affair with gold has surprised me this fall– it makes an appearance in almost everything I pin to my Apartment Inspiration board. My crafting supplies are about to outgrow their space in my desk drawers, so they’ve got to find a new home. That ikea bar cart is a perfect size for a little craft corner (although to be completely honest I’m running out of corners!).

Wardrobe

Currently, I have under-bed storage, and all my clothes that don’t go on hangers (pants, workout clothes, socks, underwear, etc.) are in one drawer and it’s driving me nuts. I saw this Pax Hack on Domino a few weeks ago and was smitten. I’d like to keep all my makeup/jewelry/clothes that don’t go on hangers in here so I can just close the doors and be done. And put stuff I don’t need every day in the drawer (cleaning/laundry supplies).

Inspire Tuesday: Why Do We Make Things?

Inspire Tuesday: Why Do We Make Things?

I just got back to NYC from Boulder yesterday afternoon and didn’t even have time to go back to my apartment before class, which I think tells you a little about how my next two weeks are going to go. I’m missing home a lot today, so I thought I’d share one of my favorite making-related quotes. I am incredibly thankful for the weekend I had with my family in Boulder, and I am ready to kick some ass here at the end of the semester in NYC. December can be insane so don’t forget to carve out a little you-time to make something!

Liz Lemon + Family Mottos

Happy Monday! How was your weekend? I spent mine working on secret projects, watching too much Breaking Bad with the boyfriend, and doing lots and lots of school work (sometimes all three at the same time, no shame!). My embroidery has fallen by the wayside the past few months as I’ve tried my hand at some other crafts so I thought I’d share some projects I did over the summer (which seems like yesterday, but was actually MONTHS ago) and have been working on this fall.

Liz Lemon Quote Wall Hanging

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Who doesn’t love good ol’ LL? She’s been one of my favorite TV characters for a long time, and this quote is one of the shining examples of everything that’s great about her. 85% sass, 15% complete mess. Kind of like all us ladies, amirite? (If I were a stand up comedian, this is the part where you’d throw tomatoes at me.) liz lemon detail

I based my design for Liz on a bookmark my mom got me from Mates Rubbish for my birthday. I love the way her mouth & eyes turned out. Not so much her weird monster hands.

My Mom’s Favorite Saying

A good life take effort

It’s a little hard to read in the picture, but it says “A Good Life Takes Effort,” which is an idea that comes straight from my mom. This piece is a total work-in-progress, but I wanted to share it anyways because I’m pretty excited about it. The blogosphere talks a lot about “intentions” and “mindfulness” but honestly, the real good stuff only happens when you do the work. I can sometimes be pretty lazy about things I don’t want to do (like cook, and clean, and socialize), and sometimes I get upset that I’m not where I want to be, and then I have to remind myself that I am the only one who can change things. I’ll probably frame this one when it’s done and hang it right at the foot of my bed as a reminder. 

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I’m pretty bad a picking (and/or sticking to) color schemes for my pieces, so I just kind of let them speak to me as I go. For this, I figured the rose should be red and I liked the way the yellow looked on the polka dots. I think it turned out pretty cute, no?

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How sweet is this little tea bag? All the images on this piece are iron-on pattern transfers from Sublime Stitching, either the books or the loose patterns. Iron-on patterns are my favorite way to do a piece, and I think theirs are the best around, both in quality & imagery. I highly recommend following their Instagram as an amazing source for embroidery inspiration.

Well, that’s it for me, for now folks! What have you made recently? I love to see what other people are up to! Share in the comments & have a great week, lovely!